For Love & First Looks
The First Look. It has become a hot topic for soon-to-be newlyweds as a big trend for "modern" weddings.
When you think about it, it really isn't all that uncommon or exactly modern. Back in the day, before weddings became the productions we are used to today, many were simple affairs where the bride and groom did tons of things we consider to be nontraditional. Think non-white wedding dresses, no veils, no flowers, simple dinners instead of a reception...the list goes on and on. These things were in some ways a reflection of the times, but many of the rules we perceive today were just not important back then.
This brings me to today's piece of advice...whether you are going with traditional or non-traditional, your wedding is still a special occasion and should be treated as such in any way that is meaningful to you. Seeing your intended on that special day is a great moment no matter how you choose to do it, so this is my perspective.
Full disclosure: I was adamant about doing a first look at my wedding. My husband was supportive of my feelings on this and things couldn't have turned out better. We are pretty private people when it comes to our relationship, and that moment felt so intimate that I wanted to make sure we were completely comfortable and had plenty of time to share it between ourselves (ok, and two photographers).
This was the most nervous I felt the entire day, and when I later asked how my husband felt at that same moment, he agreed. I had seen him in his suit beforehand (kind of required, considering I made it!) but he had no idea what my dress looked like. It was a very special and perfect moment.
Now, if you know me, you probably know that I also had some more, shall we call them, practical reasons for wanting to do a first look. We were able to get all of our bridal party and family photos finished before our sunset ceremony, allowing more time for dancing afterward. We were also able to spend some time together just the two of us, before all the guests arrived. This meant that we were both more calm and present at the actual ceremony.
During my engagement I was most worried about sobbing my way through the entire wedding with happy tears, and I desperately wanted to avoid that. Doing a first look and spending some one-on-one time with my intended beforehand was the cure. (Note: having an adorable mishap with your ring bearer pup refusing to walk down the aisle with the flower girl and having your dad make jokes while walking you down the aisle also helps.)
So, although no one asked my opinion, I'll give it to you anyway: First looks are the best! I loved mine and I think they can be a great option if they suit you.
For me, the proof is in the photos.
Photo edits courtesy of Sarah Marcella Photography